Your Social Credit Score

Your plans start at 7:00 PM. When do you arrive?

I arrive on time, or communicate early if something genuinely goes wrong.

I'm usually a few minutes late, but I give people a heads-up.

I arrive whenever I arrive. People know how I am.

I show up late without warning and expect everyone to deal with it.

You realize something you said hurt a friend's feelings. What do you do?

I listen, acknowledge the impact, and apologize without making excuses.

I apologize, though I may need a little time to understand their perspective.

I explain what I meant and hope they stop taking it personally.

I tell them they're too sensitive and make it their problem.

You're dating someone but realize you don't want to continue. What's your move?

I communicate clearly and kindly instead of leaving them guessing.

I tell them I need space and follow up once I've sorted out my thoughts.

I become less responsive and hope they get the hint.

I disappear, breadcrumb them, or keep them around for attention.

Someone respectfully points out a flaw in your behavior. How do you react?

I consider what they're saying, ask questions, and reflect honestly.

I feel defensive at first, but I revisit the conversation later.

I explain why they're wrong before considering their point.

I attack their character or refuse to admit I could be wrong.

A restaurant gets your order wrong. How do you handle it?

I politely explain the mistake and let the staff correct it.

I feel annoyed but stay respectful while asking for a fix.

I get visibly rude because the service should be better.

I insult, humiliate, or mistreat the staff.

Your friend has an important event you promised to attend. What happens?

I remember, show up, and let them know if anything changes.

I might need a reminder, but I make a genuine effort to be there.

I forget fairly often and apologize after the fact.

I routinely forget or cancel and expect them to get over it.

You make a mistake that inconveniences someone else. What do you do?

I own it, apologize, and take practical steps to make it right.

I admit my part once it's clear what happened.

I explain all the circumstances that made it happen.

I deny responsibility or find someone else to blame.

Someone sets a boundary you don't particularly like. How do you respond?

I respect it without punishment, pressure, or repeated negotiation.

I may feel disappointed, but I accept their decision.

I keep asking because I think they'll eventually change their mind.

I guilt-trip them, ignore the boundary, or retaliate.

You already agreed to plans when a more exciting invitation arrives. What do you do?

I honor my original commitment unless there's a mutual agreement to change it.

I ask the original person whether rescheduling works for them.

I cancel because the new plan sounds better.

I leave them waiting while I decide which plan I prefer.

You're learning about a culture or community unfamiliar to you. How do you approach it?

I stay curious, learn from credible sources, and question my assumptions.

I listen and ask respectful questions when appropriate.

I rely on stereotypes or assume my experience is universal.

I mock, demean, or express prejudice toward the group.

A friend is telling you about a difficult experience. What do you do?

I listen, ask what support they need, and avoid making it all about me.

I listen and offer advice if I think it might help.

I quickly turn the conversation to something that happened to me.

I dismiss their feelings or compete over who has it worse.

How do you treat people who can't offer you money, status, connections, or favors?

With the same basic respect I give anyone else.

I try to be respectful, though I sometimes notice status more than I should.

I pay noticeably more attention to people who can help me.

I treat people as disposable when they aren't useful to me.

Someone points out that you've repeated the same hurtful habit several times. What now?

I look for the pattern and make a concrete effort to change it.

I take the feedback seriously, even if changing takes time.

I apologize but don't do much differently afterward.

I accuse them of holding grudges and refuse to reflect.

A friend makes a bigoted joke in a group. What do you do?

I challenge it appropriately rather than joining in or excusing it.

I express discomfort and speak up when I feel able to do so safely.

I stay silent to avoid awkwardness, even when I know it's harmful.

I join in, defend the joke, or target the group myself.

You promised to help a friend move this weekend, but now you don't feel like going. What do you do?

I honor my commitment or communicate early and help find a fair alternative.

I tell them promptly and sincerely apologize if I can't make it.

I cancel at the last minute because I don't feel up to it.

I don't show up and let them figure it out themselves.