10 Clues you have Low Self-Esteem

1. How do you feel when you hear God referred to as ‘Father’?

A. The idea fills you with dread. It feels like God is angry, judgmental, and critical.

B. The idea fills you with joy. You love relating to God as Father.

C. It doesn’t feel like anything. You don’t know how to imagine God as a Father.

2. Do you establish appropriate boundaries with other people?

A. You feel like others take advantage of you.

B. You know how to say “no” when you need to.

C. You share too much, too often with people who don’t care or can’t be trusted.

3. What do you do when you make a mistake?

A. You obsess about what you did wrong and beat yourself up for days.

B. You admit your error, apologize and try to make it right, but remind yourself you are only human.

C. You get defensive and blame someone else or the situation for the error.

4. Do you find making decisions difficult?

A. You worry that you’ll make the wrong decision, waver back and forth between your options, and sometimes end up not deciding anything.

B. You study the situation carefully, make a confident decision and stick with it even when others don’t agree with you.

C. You make decisions quickly, not worrying about whether it’s right or not. Whatever happens, happens.

5. Is forgiving others difficult for you?

A. People that cause you great pain don’t deserve to be forgiven.

B. You process your hurt and choose to forgive others as readily as you can, understanding that everyone is human.

C. You feel like you deserve the way you were treated and make excuses for the person who hurt you.

6. How do you feel when a friend or family member gets recognition for something?

A. You feel jealous of them and wish you were being recognized instead.

B. You are happy for them and don’t feel jealous or insecure.

C. You compare yourself to them and feel like they are better than you are.

7. How do you feel when you are in a social situation with a lot of people you don’t know?

A. You are anxious or feel panicky, often making awkward comments when spoken to.

B. You feel fairly comfortable and are able to find things to talk about.

C. You are the life of the party – making jokes and laughing loudly.

8. Are you comfortable giving your opinion to others even when they may disagree with you?

A. You don’t speak up because you feel like no one listens to you anyway.

B. You care about what others think, but aren’t afraid to speak up and give your opinion even though others may disagree.

C. You just say what you think and don’t care what anyone else things about it.

9. Do you have trouble maintaining relationships?

A. Yes, because people usually are intimidated by you.

B. No. You have several close friends and many acquaintances that you interact with regularly.

C. Yes, because even when you do want to be friends with someone, something always ends up going wrong.

10. When there is a party, like a wedding or graduation open house, how do you feel about going?

A. You figure no one will notice if you don’t go. No one really wants to hang out with you anyway.

B. You’re excited and can’t wait to go. You plan to go and have a lot of fun with your friends.

B. c. Of course you’re going to go. It wouldn’t be a party without you there.

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