Catching Kismet Love Styles Assessment BETA (Neutral)

Welcome to the Catching Kismet Love Styles Assessment [BETA]!

Thank you for taking the time to complete the BETA version of this assessment. I am so appreciative that you are willing to complete this assessment, and I will keep all information you share confidential.

You are about to gain a lot of insight into the way that you approach dating and relationships. Specifically, you will learn:

When you get to the end of the assessment, you will find a link to my calendar that you can use to select a time when I will personally go over your results with you. It will also be an opportunity for you to provide feedback that will be invaluable in the improvement of this assessment for the benefit of future women seeking their forever love.

I believe that there are no accidents in life, and there is a reason you are here now. I can't wait to meet you, share your results, and learn with you!

Section 1. Please answer the following questions:

I seldom feel blue.

I don’t talk a lot.

I make a mess of things.

I have a vivid imagination.

I have difficulty understanding abstract ideas.

I am the life of the party.

I sympathize with others’ feelings.

I get chores done right away.

I am relaxed most of the time.

I get upset easily.

I do not have a good imagination.

I like order.

I am not really interested in others.

I talk to a lot of different people at parties.

I often forget to put things back in their proper place.

I am not interested in other people’s problems.

I have frequent mood swings.

I keep in the background.

I am not interested in abstract ideas.

I feel others’ emotions.

Section 2. The following questions relate to your experiences while dating. If you are married, engaged, or in a relationship, please try to think back to your experiences while you were single and dating, and answer the questions to the best of your ability from that perspective.

I feel very disappointed when not enough people contact me online.

I have a strong network of close friends who love and support me unconditionally.

I am compassionate towards myself.

Most potential partners don’t meet my standards, so I don’t give them a chance.

I know how to balance my drive for career success at work with femininity when I am with my partner.

My friends give me advice about the people that I date.

I am hung up on someone that I’m not in a romantic relationship with, but I know eventually things will work out between us.

My relationships begin passionately, but tend to end abruptly.

There is oftentimes a lack of passion in my relationships, but it’s OK because I know they will never leave me.

In a relationship, I tend to talk things over with my partner.

I have experienced my fair share of love triangles.

In a relationship, I typically worry that my partner does not really care for me.

I love myself.

Dating is full of more disappointment than enjoyment.

The potetial partners I attract treat me very well when we are together, but I don’t get to spend enough time with them because they have other priorities.

Every week, I engage in activities that bring me joy and make me feel alive.

I am able to say “no” to people without guilt, even those with whom I am close.

I believe that I have limiting beliefs that are keeping me from attracting my soulmate.

I recognize when I am not being treated with dignity and respect.

When I am having a difficult time, I have people I can turn to.

I can quickly name 5 activities that bring me joy and make me feel alive.

I can find something positive in just about every first date I have.

As I look back, I find that I typically ignore my friends’ advice about the people that I date, and go with my feelings instead.

I feel comfortable ending a relationship if I see red flags.

I feel completely lovable just as I am.

I have trouble being my authentic self with my partners.

I turn to family and/or friends during challenging times in my life.

Each day I devote time to fulfilling my life’s purpose.

I embrace dating as an opportunity to meet new people, and make new friends.

I prioritize my own self-care.

If I feel chemistry with a potential partner, I don’t mind having sex very early in our relationship.

If someone does not treat me with dignity and respect, I have no problem communicating how I feel to that person or ending a relationship, if necessary.

I am still crazy about my ex, and it keeps me from moving forward with other relationships.

I have taken time to define the qualities I am looking for in a mate.

It really depresses me that I only seem to attract potential partners who are not right for me.

I use my thoughts and feelings to attract my life partner.

There are painful events from my past that I haven’t completely let go of.

If I meet someone great but there is no chemistry, I typically wouldn't go out with that person again.

I get excited before all first dates because my date could be THE ONE.

I don't date because it is hard for me to make time.

I feel crushed when my date doesn’t contact me again after a first date I thought went well.

I believe in being proactive about looking for love.

Sometimes dating sucks so much that I stop dating for awhile.

I have 4 or more dates a month.

I prioritize my own needs.

I can recognize red flags.

I don't have time for a relationship now, but I know eventually I will find the time.

I feel very anxious about the process of meeting new people to date.

I listen to what my partner says, but I only make decisions based upon what he/she does.

I know how to flirt and give a potential partner signals to let him/her know I’m interested.

I know the characteristics of my perfect mate, and I won’t settle for anything less.

I think that my partner wants to be respected in a relationship.

It has been at least 6 months since I went out on a date.

I know what my life’s purpose is.

On dates, I often find myself thinking about what is happening instead of being fully present with my date.

I feel very anxious even when I am in a committed relationship

I have good examples of people close to me who are in successful, happy marriages.

With the right person, I don’t mind jumping into a relationship quickly

I feel very frustrated that few people that I meet or go on first dates with are people I could ever see myself dating long-term.

I have close friends who tell me the truth instead of just telling me what I want to hear.

People I date usually break up with me.

My parents are happily married.

I know right away if someone is right for me.

I believe in dating multiple people casually until I find someone to get serious with.

In a relationship, I don't feel comfortable opening up to my partner.

I feel very anxious when I am dating someone before we are in a committed relationship.

I attract people who are unavailable emotionally, mentally, and/or physically.

Having a relationship is important to me, but I just don’t make time for dating.

I am infatuated with someone who has expressed no interest in me romantically – maybe a coworker or a friend – and it keeps me from moving forward with real relationships.

Deep down, I feel like I have to win my partner's affections by doing things for him/her.

I feel very anxious when waiting for someone I’m interested in to call or text me.

I find that my partners are often not there for me when I need them.

When in a relationship, I typically feel that if I ask for things from my partner, it would be a drain on him/her.

I tend to attract partners who are controlling, paranoid, contemptuous, or mean.

I feel jealous when other attractive people draw my partner's attention.

I date people who I feel are “beneath me” in terms of looks, education, or by some other measure.

The people I attract treat me very well when we are together, but I don’t get to spend enough time with them because they have other priorities.

My relationships are typically lop-sided – they adore me and would do anything for me, but I don’t feel the same.

I have a lot of male friends.

In the beginning of a relationship, the people I attract typically seem too good to be true, but I later discover what they are really like.

I feel very awkward on a first date.

In a relationship, I typically worry that my partner does not care about me as much as I care about him/her.

I don’t want to settle for just anyone.

When I am in a relationship, I find it hard to enjoy life when I am away from my partner.

I feel very depressed that I only seem to attract people who are not right for me.

Once I am committed to a partner, I am loyal even if he/she treats me badly.

I want a partner to chase me.

I have a hard time believing my partner cares about me even when he/she is loving.

When I start to get close to a romantic partner, sometimes it really scares me.

I don’t feel I can truly be my authentic self with my partner.

I believe fundamentally every man is a player.

I feel very disappointed after a first date with someone who I can't see myself actually dating.

When things are going good in a relationship, I tend to pull away.

I feel very comfortable hanging out with my guy friends.

In a relationship, I prefer not to show my patner how I feel deep down.

In a relationship, I typically am not always certain my partner will be there for me.

I have trouble moving out of the “friend” zone with people that I like.

I feel that if I choose one partner, I may be letting go of a better possibility in the future.

I often feel ambivalent about my partner when I am in a relationship – sometimes I feel like he/she is THE ONE and sometimes I feel trapped.

I have trouble getting past the first coffee date with a potential partner because they never seem interested in me.

I feel very disappointed when someone whose profile I really like does not write back to me online.

I frequently accuse my partner of looking at or being interested in other people.

In a relationship, I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner.

In a relationship, I'm afraid that my partner may abandon me.

My friends seldom hear from me when I am in a relationship.

In a relationship, it helps to turn to my partner in times of need.

Section 3. Please answer the following questions about your caretakers. For many, these will be mom and dad, but if you were raised by someone other than your parents, please answer these questions about your primary caretakers. In this section, we are looking for the 5 positive and 5 negative characteristics of your caretakers that stand out to you the most. NOTE: Questions about your second caretaker may be skipped if you had only one primary caretaker.

Positive Characteristics of Mom (or Caretaker #1):

Negative Characteristics of Mom (or Caretaker #1):

Positive Characteristics of Dad (or Caretaker #2):

Negative Characteristics of Dad (or Caretaker #2):

Section 4. Although answering the following questions would add an additional dimension to your results, they are optional. Please answer the following questions if you feel comfortable doing so:

Did a household member go to prison?

Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Push, grab, slap, or throw something at you? or Ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured?

Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you? or Act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt?

Did an adult or person at least 5 years older than you ever… Touch or fondle you or have you touch their body in a sexual way? or Attempt or actually have oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse with you?

Did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker or alcoholic, or who used street drugs?

Did you often or very often feel that … No one in your family loved you or thought you were important or special? or Your family didn’t look out for each other, feel close to each other, or support each other?

Did you often or very often feel that … You didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, and had no one to protect you? or Your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it?

Was your mother or stepmother: Often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown at her? or Sometimes, often, or very often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard? or Ever repeatedly hit over at least a few minutes or threatened with a gun or knife?

Was a household member depressed or mentally ill, or did a household member attempt suicide?

Were your parents ever separated or divorced?

Section 5. Please answer the following questions:

As a youth, people noticed that I was capable and could get things done.

When I was young, I was independent and a go-getter.

When I was young, I believed that life is what you make it.

I believe that my father loved me when I was little.

I believe that my mother loved me when I was little.

I’ve heard that when I was an infant someone in my family enjoyed playing with me, and I enjoyed it, too.

My family, neighbors and friends talked often about making our lives better.

Someone in my family cared about how I was doing in school.

We had rules in our house and were expected to keep them.

When I felt really bad, I could almost always find someone I trusted to talk to.

When I was a child, neighbors or my friends’ parents seemed to like me.

When I was a child, teachers, coaches, youth leaders or ministers were there to help me.

When I was a child, there were relatives in my family who made me feel better if I was sad or worried.

When I was little, other people helped my mother and father take care of me and they seemed to love me.

Section 6. Please answer the following questions with a rating between 1 and 10.

How dedicated have you been over the course of your life to activities that will help you to understand yourself better and heal. (e.g. psychotherapy, hypnosis, EFT, etc.) 1 - Not dedicated, 10 - devote time each day.

How much of a connection have you been able to see between events that happened in your childhood, and events that happen in your life today? 1 - See no connections, 10 - Frequenly see connections.

How much do you believe that you are impacted in your life today by the events that occurred in your childhood? 1 - Not impacted, 10 - Very impacted.