Leader Readiness Assessment Tool

My divorce was finalized

I am no longer experiencing intense emotional experiences (feeling overwhelmed or out of control) any more.

I am not bitter/holding grudge against my ex-spouse. I am not regularly complaining to others—or myself—about my ex-spouse, although there might be occasional triggers.

I rarely daydream (with regret) about “what might have been” with my ex-spouse.

I recognize the ways I might have contributed to the break-up of my marriage, but I have learned from these past mistakes and am working to change those areas of my life.

I have a supportive network of friends and family members. I am able to talk to others about my remaining struggles related to the divorce in a productive way.

I have a new daily/weekly routine that I am comfortable with and that promotes my physical well-being (in terms of eating well, exercise, restful sleep, etc.).

I have a new daily/weekly routine that I am comfortable with and that promotes my spiritual well-being (in terms of reading the Bible, praying, attending church, etc.).

I am able to think about future life goals with a sense of excitement.

I am willing to listen attentively to others without interrupting them to offer my own opinion.

I like to reach to those who are hurting, to try to help in whatever way I can.