Judging Manasa's EQ! :)

Dr. Fretz's EQ TEST

(Instructor notes):

This survey is sent to you by a person who is working on their Emotional Intelligence. Loosely defined, this means “people skills” but is actually quite a bit more than that.
Think back over all the interactions you’ve had with them since you’ve known them (but if it’s a particularly long time, like since childhood, then focus on more recent adult interactions).
Thinking about what you have observed and experienced with and from this person, please answer the following questions as honestly and directly as possible.
Answers are anonymous and many people are being surveyed.
“Sugar coating” things or trying to “be nice” is actually super unhelpful to someone who is willing to ask for this type of feedback. Just tell the truth :)
The following questions ask you to rate the person against OTHERS YOU KNOW AT LEAST AS WELL as this person. So, not rating against everyone in the world, or everyone you have ever encountered, but everyone you know at least as well.
It is absolutely OK to have your personal feelings be the basis of these answers, EQ (Emotional Quotient) is not an objective thing.

Dr. Fretz's EQ TEST

(Instructor notes):

This survey is sent to you by a person who is working on their Emotional Intelligence. Loosely defined, this means “people skills” but is actually quite a bit more than that.
Think back over all the interactions you’ve had with them since you’ve known them (but if it’s a particularly long time, like since childhood, then focus on more recent adult interactions).
Thinking about what you have observed and experienced with and from this person, please answer the following questions as honestly and directly as possible.
Answers are anonymous and many people are being surveyed.
“Sugar coating” things or trying to “be nice” is actually super unhelpful to someone who is willing to ask for this type of feedback. Just tell the truth :)
The following questions ask you to rate the person against OTHERS YOU KNOW AT LEAST AS WELL as this person. So, not rating against everyone in the world, or everyone you have ever encountered, but everyone you know at least as well.
It is absolutely OK to have your personal feelings be the basis of these answers, EQ (Emotional Quotient) is not an objective thing.

How well does she control herself? Situations, stress?

she seems to lack self control, easily set off, sometimes scary - Often fly off the handle for minor issues, won’t listen to reason or calm down.

she frequently loses control, but not always - Like above, but less often.

she mostly stays in control, but can get out of control with enough stress - Like below, but not quite as good

she is unusually calm even in times of great stress - Like a rock in a storm, generally does not respond to insults, even personal ones, focuses on solutions.

How much do you see her invest energy / help others?

She invests no energy, they steal energy - She spends her own energy and time making things worse for others.

She only rarely invests energy in others or help them - Like above but not as much, or not all the time.

She often invests energy in or help others - Like below, but not as strong

She pretty much defaults to helping others, and share most of her energy with others - She is an inspiration, it’s hard to understand where she gets her energy from. People want to be around her and seek her out for help

How much negativity does she put out?

She is incredibly, troublingly negative - Almost can’t stand to be around her. Huge impact on me or others.

She is negative a bit more than half the time, sometimes positive - like above, but not so extreme. Still pretty annoying though.

She seems mostly positive, very rarely negative - Like below, but not as strong.

She is quite positive, actually - Generally sunny attitude, shares a good mood with others, provides positive energy that others draw from.

Elevator Test - If you KNEW you were about to be stuck in an elevator alone with her, but you could avoid it by paying money out of your wallet (and no one would ever know), how much would you pay to avoid being stuck in the elevator with her for six hours. (ignore any feelings/fears you have about being trapped in elevators, just focus on what you’d pay to avoid being stuck alone with her for four hours with only her to talk to). For this question, the monetary value is relative based on what you make. The point is how much value would you sacrifice to avoid her.

I’d pay a considerable sum, over a day’s pay - This would be a terrible experience that I’d pay a lot to avoid.

I’d pay a small sum, maybe 1/2 a day’s pay - This would be pretty bad, I ‘d pay a decent sum.

I’d pay an hour or two of my pay - Wouldn’t mind much, rather do something else. I’d pay a little.

I would actually look forward to it - Sign me up!

Leadership - if you were going to be assigned to a group where Manasa was put in charge, how would you feel? Would you follow her?

I would feel sick and dismayed - I’d call sick… for weeks!

I would be mildly concerned/displeased - It would be the major factor in my mind at work, but I’d still go to work.

I would be mildly pleased/happy - I’d consider this a better than average situation.

I would be very enthusiastic - This would make me even happier to go to work. I’d be excited.

How does she treat others who are more powerful than her or in positions superior to her? (bosses, potential bosses, authority figures, those who have something she wants)

She treats them terribly - Behaves like complete jackass, rude, disrespectful.

She could treat them better - Not particularly positive or well mannered, nor respectful

She treats them OK - About normal, or as you’d expect. Appropriate for the position they hold.

She treats them well - She is respectful, perhaps even obsequious. Very interested in pleasing them or meeting their expectations.

How well does she treat others who are beneath her, lower in status or power, or assigned to work for her?

She treats them terribly - Behave like complete jackass, rude, disrespectful. Cruel. Contempt, as if she has no value as a person.

She could treat them better - Not particularly positive or well mannered, nor respectful.

She treats them OK - About normal, or as you’d expect. Appropriate for the position they hold.

She treats them well - She is respectful. Very interested in pleasing them or meeting their expectations.

How well does she treat others who are peers, and equal in power to her?

She treats them terribly - Behave like complete jackass, rude, disrespectful. Critical of them behind their back.

She could treat them better - Not particularly positive or well mannered, nor respectful.

She treats them OK - About normal, or as you’d expect. Appropriate for the position they hold.

She treats them well - She is respectful, perhaps even obsequious. Very interested in pleasing them or meeting their expectations.

OPEN RESPONSE SECTION, please be specific, but brief. Providing concrete examples can be very helpful. (E.g. instead of “you are mean sometimes” instead say “you make rude and insulting comments to wait-staff most of the times we dine out”)